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50 Relationship Questions for Couples

Ask each other these questions to get to know each other better and bring you closer

No matter how long you’ve been together, you can always get to know your partner on a deeper level by asking the right relationship questions. Staying curious and showing interest in one another is one of the best ways to keep your relationship happy and healthy. 

American psychologist, researcher, and relationship expert Dr. John Gottman found that couples who remain curious about each other and stay positive about their relationship are more likely to overcome life’s challenges. He also found that how well partners know each other helps them stay connected, have more stable relationships, and have stronger intimacy. 

We put together the best relationship questions to ask your partner — whether you’ve just made things official or you’ve been together for a decade — to get to know each other better and bring you closer. 

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Relationship questions to ask your partner 

Take turns asking each other these 50 relationship questions. Whether on a road trip, during a date night, or while you’re going for a weekend stroll, pick a time when it’s just the two of you.

  1. How can your partner help support you during difficult times? 

  2. Which of your partner’s qualities makes you feel most secure?

  3. What’s one challenge we’ve overcome together?

  4. What’s one thing we can do today to make our relationship stronger tomorrow?

  5. In what way has our relationship enhanced your life?

  6. When have you felt most vulnerable with your partner?

  7. What’s your biggest relationship fear?

  8. Which aspect of our relationship would you most like to work on?

  9. When has your partner shown you they have your best interest at heart?

  10. What do you find hardest about being away from your partner?

  11. When was the last time we took a risk together? Did it pay off?

  12. How would you feel if your partner told you a white lie?

  13. What kind of physical intimacy would you like more of?

  14. What do you hope to achieve together in the next year?

  15. What have past arguments taught you about your partner? 

  16. What’s your favorite thing about our relationship?

  17. What’s something new you’d like to try with your partner?

  18. What’s your favorite memory as a couple?

  19. What’s the worst thing an ex would say about you?

  20. What’s a relationship deal-breaker for you? 

  21. What is your biggest turn-on?

  22. What’s your biggest turn-off?

  23. What drew you to your partner initially?

  24. In what ways do you think we’re most compatible?

  25. Which of our relationship inside jokes do you find the funniest?  

  26. What's your favorite sexual memory of you and your partner?

  27. What are three things you couldn't live without?

  28. What kind of gifts do you like?

  29. How important is affection to you?

  30. What do you think being a good partner means?

  31. What's one bad relationship habit you want to give up?

  32. Is it ever okay to keep secrets from your partner? Why and why not?

  33. What goals could we work towards, together? 

  34. If you were writing a book about our relationship, what would the title be?

  35. How do you like to make up after a fight?

  36. What is more important in a relationship, intimacy or friendship?

  37. Name three things that should be shared in a healthy relationship…

  38. What did you learn from a past relationship that has helped our relationship?

  39. If you woke up in your partner’s body one morning, what's the first thing you’d do?

  40. What's a song that reminds you of our relationship?

  41. If your relationship was a cocktail, what would it be?

  42. If you could describe me in only one word, what would it be?

  43. If you could describe yourself in only one word, what would it be?

  44. What relationship lesson has taken you the longest to learn?

  45. If you could have sex anywhere, where would you choose?

  46. If you were having issues in your relationship, who would you ask for help?

  47. What type of activities do you wish we had more time for as a couple?

  48. What would make our sex life better?

  49. What makes you feel most at peace in our relationship?

  50. What are your favorite three topics to talk about with me?

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