From the flutters of a first date to the trickier terrain of a serious relationship, there are a lot of steps that go into making a relationship official.
When each date just keeps getting better and better, it doesn’t take long for the classic questions to arise. How many dates before a relationship? When should you have the relationship talk? Do you have to have a fixed number of dates before you take things to the next level?
Before you start sweating over your relationship status, and whether it’s time to take the leap and make things official — we’re help to help.
Whether you meet on a dating app or the dance floor, the early stages of dating someone are always a thrilling experience!
As you get to know each other and spend time together, you’ll naturally progress through many dating milestones. From the butterfly-fueled first kiss to the infamous third date, it’s important to test your compatibility and see if you’re ready to progress to the next relationship stage.
The only way to progress from dating into being an official couple is through communication and having that dreaded ‘What are we?’ talk! If you’re both on the same page and share that emotional connection, then congrats — you’re officially in a committed relationship!
It’s also important to note that casual dating is not a crime! Even if you’re not dating to find a potential partner, dating (and the infamous situationship) can teach you a lot about yourself.
However, if you want a casual relationship, you need to make that apparent to your dating partner — as they might be thinking you’re moving towards an exclusive relationship if you’re spending that much time together.
So what is the average number of dates before making it official with your partner?
Ultimately, there is no magic number when it comes to dating — as choosing to enter into a relationship is a very personal choice. While some people jump into a new relationship very early in the dating process, others prefer to build a strong emotional bond before putting an official label on it!
It’s comforting to remember that there are no hard and fast rules around making your relationship official, as every couple moves at their own pace, and that’s totally okay!
While some people prefer to approach dating without any strict rules, other people like more structure when looking for a potential partner.
Enter the ‘10-date rule’, where individuals go on 10 dates with their partner before moving forward into a committed romantic relationship. For followers of this rule, this amount of dates allows both partners to spend time getting to know one another (and time to spot any red flags!) before progressing into something more serious.
The often nerve-wracking first date is an opportunity to test the waters and see if that spark is there. Then if you progress to the second and third date (which not everyone does!), you have the chance to get to know one another on a deeper level. If all goes well, by the fourth date you should feel comfortable together.
As you progress through each date, more and more milestones (and hurdles) will naturally arise, and you can evaluate how you and your partner feel each step of the way.
By the tenth date, you should both feel confident in your choice of partner, and ready to dive into a new relationship with your intentions set!
The amount of time you spend with your partner or the number of dates you go on, differs from couple to couple but everyone knows when it’s finally crunch time. After spending time with your significant other, if you think you’ve found the right person, it’s time to pop that question.
But how do you know when it’s the right time to make it official?
Even though it’s tempting to revert to the infamous phrase “when you know, you just know”, we want to provide you with a bit more guidance than that!
The general rule of thumb for these big decisions is tapping directly into how you feel, and of course, how the other person feels! Even though we don’t want to dismiss the concept of love at first sight, any relationship coach will advise you to wait at least a few weeks or a few months before diving into a relationship.
The most important thing is that you’ve given yourself enough time to get to know one another and to see if you’re really compatible. If you’re still struggling to see if you’re ready to become official, we have a few hints that you’re already well on your way…