Best 170 Relationship Questions for Couples

Ask each other these questions to get to know each other better and bring you closer
on November 14, 2023
Read time: 10 mins

No matter how long you’ve been together, you can always get to know your partner on a deeper level by asking the right relationship questions. Staying curious and showing interest in one another is one of the best ways to keep your relationship happy and healthy. 

American psychologist, researcher, and relationship expert Dr. John Gottman found that couples who remain curious about each other and stay positive about their relationship are more likely to overcome life’s challenges. He also found that how well partners know each other helps them stay connected, have more stable relationships, and have stronger intimacy. 

We put together the best relationship questions to ask your significant other — whether you’re in a new relationship or you’ve been together for a decade — to get to know each other better and bring you closer. 

What are some good relationship questions?

No matter how long you’ve been together, there’s always something more to learn about your loved one. 

Relationships are all about building emotional intimacy, and sometimes your daily routine can get in the way of asking those more serious relationship questions. Use your next date night as an opportunity to set the mood and start an in-depth and intimate conversation with your loved one!

Even though you’re asking important relationship questions, it doesn’t need to feel like a quiz night! Enjoy learning more about your partner, and explore your emotional connection with these relationship questions. 

  1. How can your partner help support you during difficult times? 

  2. Which of your partner’s qualities makes you feel most secure?

  3. What’s one challenge we’ve overcome together?

  4. What’s one thing we can do today to make our relationship stronger tomorrow?

  5. In what way has our relationship enhanced your life?

  6. When have you felt most vulnerable with your partner?

  7. What’s your biggest relationship fear?

  8. Which aspect of our relationship would you most like to work on?

  9. When has your partner shown you they have your best interest at heart?

  10. What do you find hardest about being away from your partner?

  11. When was the last time we took a risk together? Did it pay off?

  12. How would you feel if your partner told you a white lie?

  13. What kind of physical intimacy would you like more of?

  14. What do you hope to achieve together in the next year?

  15. What have past arguments taught you about your partner? 

  16. What’s your favorite thing about our relationship?

  17. What’s something new you’d like to try with your partner?

  18. What’s your favorite memory as a couple?

  19. What’s the worst thing an ex would say about you?

  20. What’s a relationship deal-breaker for you? 

  21. What is your biggest turn-on?

  22. What’s your biggest turn-off?

  23. What drew you to your partner initially?

  24. In what ways do you think we’re most compatible?

  25. Which of our relationship inside jokes do you find the funniest?  

  26. What's your favorite sexual memory of you and your partner?

  27. What are three things you couldn't live without?

  28. What kind of gifts do you like?

  29. How important is affection to you?

  30. What do you think being a good partner means?

  31. What's one bad relationship habit you want to give up?

  32. Is it ever okay to keep secrets from your partner? Why and why not?

  33. What goals could we work towards, together? 

  34. What would the title be if you were writing a book about our relationship?

  35. How do you like to make up after a fight?

  36. What is more important in a relationship, intimacy or friendship?

  37. Name three things that should be shared in a healthy relationship…

  38. What did you learn from a past relationship that has helped our relationship?

  39. If you woke up in your partner’s body one morning, what's the first thing you’d do?

  40. What's a song that reminds you of our relationship?

  41. If your relationship was a cocktail, what would it be?

  42. If you could describe me in only one word, what would it be?

  43. If you could describe yourself in only one word, what would it be?

  44. What relationship lesson has taken you the longest to learn?

  45. If you could have sex anywhere, where would you choose?

  46. If you were having issues in your relationship, who would you ask for help?

  47. What type of activities do you wish we had more time for as a couple?

  48. What would make our sex life better?

  49. What makes you feel most at peace in our relationship?

  50. What are your favorite three topics to talk about with me?

  51. Do you still have a crush on me? What do you think that means? 

  52. What’s your favorite movie to watch when you need comfort? 

  53. Do you know what my love language is? How do you meet those needs? 

  54. What is your biggest regret from your past relationships? 

  55. Who was your first crush as a child? 

  56. If you could meet any famous person who would it be? 

  57. What is your biggest memory from our first date? 

  58. What is the most important thing about making a long-term relationship work? 

  59. How do you think we've grown individually since being together?

  60. In what ways can we support each other's personal development?

  61. What personal qualities would you like to develop?

  62. What was your favorite book as a child? 

  63. What does trust mean to you in our relationship?

  64. What is your most impactful childhood memory? 

  65. How can we build stronger trust between us?

  66. What board game makes you the most competitive? 

  67. Can you recall a moment where you felt completely trusted?

  68. Do you believe in the concept of soulmates? 

  69. How do you feel about using sex toys in our relationship? 

  70. Do you believe that marriage is for the rest of your life? 

  71. What are your long-term goals for our relationship?

  72. How do you envision our life together in five years?

  73. What are some shared dreams we should work towards?

  74. Do you think that it’s okay to still follow your exes on social media? 

  75. How do you balance personal space with time spent together?

  76. What personal achievements are you most proud of?

  77. How can we create a nurturing environment for personal growth?

  78. How can we balance our career ambitions with our relationship?

  79. What do you think is the best superpower? 

  80. In what ways can we support each other's future aspirations?

  81. How do you see us overcoming future challenges together?

  82. Do you have any pet peeves? Have I ever done anything of them? 

  83. What’s your favorite personality trait in a person? 

  84. How do you feel about sex without achieving climax? 

  85. What do you think about posting each other on social media? 

  86. How do we typically handle disagreements in our relationship?

  87. How do you envision our families blending?

  88. What are your favorite ways to express love?

  89. What hobbies would you like to explore together?

  90. What conflict resolution strategies work best for us?

  91. What role do you see our friends playing in our relationship?

  92. How do we maintain intimacy in our relationship?

  93. How can we support each other's interests?

  94. What’s the best relationship advice you’ve ever received? 

  95. What are your thoughts on compromise in a relationship?

  96. What are your thoughts on traditions with family and friends?

  97. How can we deepen our emotional connection?

  98. Are there any activities you'd love to try as a couple?

  99. How important is forgiveness in our relationship?

  100. What kind of family life do you aspire to have?

  101. How do you feel about PDA?

  102. In what ways can we keep the romance alive?

  103. What’s your idea of a perfect date? 

  104. Have you ever faked an orgasm? 

  105. What do you think is the best way to look after your mental health? 

  106. How do you feel about how your last relationship ended? 

  107. What hobby have you always wanted to try but haven't yet?

  108. How can we support each other's career goals?

  109. How do our individual values align with each other?

  110. What are your thoughts on work-life balance in our relationship?

  111. How can we ensure our careers don't negatively affect our relationship?

  112. How do our cultural backgrounds influence our relationships?

  113. How do we show support for each other during tough times?

  114. What can I do to make you feel more understood?

  115. How do we celebrate each other's successes?

  116. How do you prefer to be cared for when you're not feeling well?

  117. How can we better communicate our needs and desires?

  118. What are your views on savings and investments?

  119. How can we align our spending habits with our goals?

  120. What does a perfect day off look like for you?

  121. What does unconditional support look like in our relationship?

  122. How do we handle each other's vulnerabilities?

  123. Can you share a time when you felt deeply supported by me?

  124. What are your thoughts on having separate hobbies or interests?

  125. How do you define boundaries in a relationship?

  126. What kind of vacations or getaways do you enjoy the most?

  127. What are your financial goals for the next five years?

  128. How do you handle setbacks in pursuing your dreams?

  129. What dreams have you put on hold and why?

  130. How important is financial security in our relationship?

  131. What's the most adventurous thing you've ever done?

  132. What kind of adventures excite you the most?

  133. What cultural festivals or events would you like to attend together?

  134. What's a dream you've had since childhood?

  135. How do you feel about volunteering or participating in community events?

  136. What social issues do you find most pressing?

  137. How can we encourage each other to step out of our comfort zones?

  138. What's something you feel you can't express, and how can I help?

  139. How has our communication evolved since we've been together?

  140. What communication barriers do we need to work on breaking down?

  141. How can we show more appreciation for each other daily?

  142. In what ways can we demonstrate respect for each other's opinions and choices?

  143. What small gestures of appreciation do you value the most?

  144. How can we foster an environment of mutual respect?

  145. How do you like to be thanked or shown appreciation?

  146. How can we better understand each other's emotional needs?

  147. What does patience look like in our day-to-day interactions?

  148. How do we handle changes and unexpected situations in our lives?

  149. What can we do to become more adaptable as a couple?

  150. What are some goals we can set and achieve together?

  151. How do our individual goals align with our shared objectives?

  152. What's a significant goal we've accomplished as a couple?

  153. What are our goals for our relationship in the coming year?

  154. How do we handle it when our goals conflict?

  155. What steps can we take to ensure we're working towards common objectives?

  156. What have you learned about yourself through our relationship?

  157. How do you handle self-doubt, and how can I support you in that?

  158. What's your favorite memory that we've shared together?

  159. How can we create more meaningful experiences as a couple?

  160. What shared experience do you think has strengthened our relationship the most?

  161. How can we better balance our time together with our time apart?

  162. In what ways do we complement each other's personalities?

  163. How do you define emotional intelligence in a relationship?

  164. What steps can we take to become more empathetic towards each other?

  165. What new things about me are you still curious to discover?

  166. How can we keep a sense of curiosity alive in our relationship?

  167. What new aspect of your personality would you like me to understand better?

  168. How can we inspire each other to remain open and curious?

  169. What's a question you've never asked me but have always wanted to?

  170. How can we support each other emotionally during tough times?

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