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66 Fun and Flirty “Would You Rather?” Questions for Relationships

Think you know each other already? The answers to these may surprise you

It’s scientifically proven that the happiest of couples are not only in touch with the outlines of each other's lives – their hobbies and weekly schedule, for example – but also with each other's innermost beliefs, preferences, even fears. No matter how busy they are, these couples make getting to know each other a priority throughout the course of their relationship.

“Would you rather?” questions for couples are a fun way to spark meaningful conversations between you and your partner and build intimacy to boot. We’ve picked 66 of the best “would you rather?” questions from the flirty, to the dirty.

Funny “would you rather?” questions to have a laugh together

  1. Would you rather be the only one drunk at a party or the only one sober?

  2. Would you rather eat nothing but salad or nothing but dessert for a month?

  3. Would you rather be covered in hair or have no hair at all?

  4. What would you rather have no baths for a month or no internet for a month?

  5. Would you rather have the hiccups for the rest of your life or always feel as though you’re about to sneeze?

  6. Would you rather be a bird or a cat?

  7. Would you rather only be able to whisper or only be able to shout?

  8. Would you rather eat cold pizza or hot cereal?

  9. Would you rather not be able to control your laughter, or not be able to control your tears?

  10. Would you rather wear the same socks for a month or the same underwear for a week?

  11. Would you rather have the BFG’s ears or Pinocchio’s nose?

  12. Would you rather fight one hundred chicken-sized cows or one cow-sized chicken?

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Flirty “would you rather?” questions for texting fun throughout the day

  1. Would you rather have a sexy shower or a sexy bath?

  2. Would you rather long, slow sex or a quickie?

  3. Would you rather have everyone you know be able to read your thoughts, or everyone you know to have access to your internet history?

  4. Would you rather be kissed all day or teased all day?

  5. Would you rather have sex on the beach or sex on a plane?

  6. Would you rather kiss your ex or your mortal enemy?

  7. Would you rather kiss in the dark or in the rain?

  8. Would you rather be your partner’s first love or their last?

  9. Would you rather kiss me here … or here? 😉

  10. Would you rather be constantly surprised in bed or always know what’s coming?

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Dirty “would you rather?” questions to spice up your sex life

  1. Would you rather lick or be licked?

  2. Would you rather whip or be whipped?

  3. Would you rather have more role play or more foreplay?

  4. Would you rather have a cupboard full of sex toys or a cupboard full of sexy outfits?

  5. Would you rather have sex in public and be caught, or sex in private and not know someone’s watching?

  6. Would you rather suck someone’s earlobe or suck someone’s toes? 

  7. Would you rather be caught masturbating or having sex?

  8. Would you rather have a sex playlist with classical music on it or hardcore rock?

  9. Would you rather give or receive a lap dance?

  10. Would you rather find your parents’ sex tape, or have your parents find yours?

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Deep “would you rather?” questions to build intimacy and closeness between you

  1. Would you rather have money to burn or time to kill?

  2. Would you rather experience the world beginning or ending?

  3. Would you rather be homeless or in prison?

  4. Would you rather lose your sight or your memories?

  5. Would you rather get stuck in an elevator with your ex and their partner, or with your partner and their ex?

  6. Would you rather have the lights on or off?

  7. Would you rather hug or hold hands?

  8. Would you rather have no sex forever or no meaningful conversations forever?

  9. Would you prefer to be the only one laughing at someone, or the only one being laughed at?

  10. Would you rather always go to the same holiday resort or never be able to return to a resort you liked?

  11. Would you rather be able to play any instrument in the world, or speak any language?

  12. Would you rather be loved or respected?

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Date night “would you rather?” questions to keep the conversation flowing all night

  1. Would you rather give up social media or clubbing?

  2. Where would you rather travel to – the future or the past?

  3. Would you rather stay in or go out on a Friday night?

  4. Would you rather clean the same mess in the kitchen everyday or not be allowed to clean up the mess at all?

  5. Would you rather attend a wedding with 5 guests or 500?

  6. Would you rather be a leader or a follower?

  7. Would you rather live in a campervan or a castle?

  8. Would you rather have an exciting but dangerous life or a boring but meaningful life?

  9. Would you rather date an introvert or an extrovert?

  10. Would you rather have birthday presents or birthday experiences?

  11. Would you rather turn up to a party overdressed or underdressed?

  12. Would you rather always get up at 5am or never go to bed before midnight?

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Hard “would you rather?” questions to mull over together

  1. Would you rather cheat and be caught or be cheated on and never be told?

  2. Would you rather work a full week’s work remotely and alone, or be in the office daily, surrounded by people?

  3. Would you rather lose your sense of smell or your sense of taste?

  4. Would you rather it always be summer or always be winter?

  5. Would you rather be forced to sing along or dance along to every song you hear?

  6. Would you rather have 10 years with your partner or a one night stand with your celebrity crush?

  7. Would you rather now the date of your death or the cause of your death?

  8. Would you rather buy 10 things you don’t need every shopping trip, or always forget the one thing you do need every time you go shopping?

  9. Would you rather get rich in a way that upsets your family or just make enough money to live?

  10. Would you rather never age mentally or never age physically?

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