240 Dirty “Would You Rather” Questions for Couples to Try!

Communication is at the core of a healthy, satisfying sex life. Knowing how to communicate your needs, desires, and boundaries with your partner is vital, but communication is a skill that requires constant practice.

That doesn’t mean it needs to be boring, though — that’s where sexy “would you rather” questions come into play. 

“Would you rather” questions are a fun way to pass the time, but also get to know someone better. Next time you’re trying to set the mood for sex or to spice up a date night, why not play a game of “Would you rather” with a sexy twist? It’s also a great way to stay connected with a long-distance partner and keep things flirty while you’re miles apart. 

How do you play sexy would you rather? 

Sexy “would you rather” questions can be as entertaining as they can be revealing. The premise of this classic icebreaker game is simple: you’re given two different scenarios and have to pick which one you’d choose. 

At the surface level, it’s nothing more than a way to have a laugh, but you can learn a whole lot about your partner based on their answers — whether you’ve just started dating or have been together for years.

And if you add a sexual element you can open up the conversation about sex and get to know each other’s fantasies and desires, or explore new sexual interests.

What are the best spicy would you rather questions? 

If you want to play dirty would you rather, we’ve rounded up the best “would you rather” questions to ask your partner and get the ball rolling.

Or if you want to keep going, we challenge you to come up with your own, too — and see where the night takes you.

1. Would you rather never have an orgasm again or orgasm every hour on the hour?

2. Would you rather only have sex in bed for the rest of your life, or never be able to have sex in bed again? 

3. Would you rather publish your porn search history or read all your text messages aloud to your hometown? 

4. Would you rather have a one-night stand or a bubble bath with a stranger? 

5. Would you rather have sex with someone you hate but the sex is amazing, or have sex with someone you love but the sex is terrible? 

6. Would you rather always have sex with the lights on, or in a pitch-black room?

7. Would you rather never have a good meal again, or never have good sex again?

8. Would you rather never have foreplay again or only have foreplay and no penetrative sex of any kind for the rest of your life? 

9. Would you rather cry every time you climax, or have an orgasm every time you cry?

10. Would you rather have a threesome with someone you know or with complete strangers?

11. Would you rather have sex with a co-worker or with a high school friend? 

12. Would you rather be blindfolded or blindfold me? 

13. Would you rather only have kinky sex or romantic sex?

14. Would you rather have morning sex or late-night sex?

15. Would you rather give up oral sex or anal sex?

16. Would you rather be dominant or submissive in the bedroom?

17. Would you rather have sex in the bathroom or the kitchen?

18. Would you rather go on top for the rest of your life, or on the bottom?

19. Would you rather be a bad kisser or bad at giving oral sex?

20. Would you rather only give or only receive?

21. Would you rather be tied up or blindfolded?

22. Would you rather have sex in a secluded forest or on a secluded beach?

23. Would you rather use whipped cream or chocolate syrup during foreplay?

24. Would you rather have a spontaneous quickie in a place where we might get caught, or plan an intimate night at home?

25. Would you rather incorporate food into our sex life or keep food strictly for dining?

26. Would you rather have passionate sex after a fight or make love softly to resolve a conflict?

27. Would you rather talk dirty to me over text all day or save it all for when we're together?

28. Would you rather wear provocative lingerie or nothing at all under your clothes for a date night?

29. Would you rather get a sensual massage with oil or a stimulating massage with a feather?

30. Would you rather engage in a role-playing scenario where we are strangers or one where we are historical figures?

31. Would you rather incorporate music into our lovemaking or prefer the sounds of nature?

32. Would you rather have a steamy session in a hot tub or under a waterfall?

33. Would you rather have your hair pulled or your back scratched?

34. Would you rather end every date night with a sensual dance or a striptease?

35. Would you rather have sex while watching a steamy movie or while listening to seductive music?

36. Would you rather have a hushed quickie while guests are in the other room or wait until everyone leaves?

37. Would you rather have me speak in an accent during foreplay or stay completely silent but very expressive?

38. Would you rather shower together every day or only have bubble baths together on special occasions?

39. Would you rather explore new territories with body paint or with blindfolds and sensation play?

40. Would you rather make out in the rain or in the backseat of a car?

41. Would you rather have me tease you with a feather or with ice cubes?

42. Would you rather wake up to oral sex or to a full-body massage?

43. Would you rather skinny dip at midnight or sunbathe nude?

44. Would you rather playfully wrestle in bed or have a tickle fight?

45. Would you rather make love in front of a fireplace or by the light of hundreds of candles?

46. Would you rather receive a sexy voicemail or an explicit picture message?

47. Would you rather be gently dominated or gently dominate me?

48. Would you rather use body chocolate or edible underwear?

49. Would you rather explore Kamasutra together or take a steamy couple’s yoga class?

50. Would you rather have sex in a luxurious hotel room or in a cozy cabin in the woods?

51. Would you rather spend an entire day teasing each other without release or have immediate satisfaction?

52. Would you rather have your body worshiped or worship my body?

53. Would you rather explore light bondage or sensory deprivation?

54. Would you rather spend a day sexting or have an hour of uninterrupted phone sex?

55. Would you rather play naughty charades or have a sexy scavenger hunt?

56. Would you rather be serenaded with a love song before sex or be read erotic poetry after?

57. Would you rather have an exotic dancer teach us moves or learn them together from videos?

58. Would you rather send me a series of suggestive texts during work hours or a single, very explicit one after hours?

59. Would you rather have sex in a cozy tent while camping or in the back of a luxury SUV on a road trip?

60. Would you rather explore a fantasy involving food or one involving costumes?

61. Would you rather spend a cold day under the covers with me or a hot night under the stars?

62. Would you rather seduce me with a strip tease or with a lap dance?

63. Would you rather have sex in an elegant, antique chair or on a fluffy, modern rug?

64. Would you rather explore light BDSM or have a romantic, rose-petal-covered bed experience?

65. Would you rather have me leave sexy notes all over the house or send you provocative emails throughout the day?

66. Would you rather have me wear leather or lace?

67. Would you rather play a dirty question game or act out a naughty fantasy?

68. Would you rather have me write my desires on your body or whisper them in your ear?

69. Would you rather have sex with only one position allowed or have sex with no touching allowed?

70. Would you rather sneak a kiss in a crowded room or sneak a touch under the table?

71. Would you rather make love in front of a mirror or in complete darkness?

72. Would you rather leave a hickey where only you can see it or in a place where it's noticeable?

73. Would you rather play a sexy truth or dare or a game of erotic hide and seek?

74. Would you rather watch your partner masturbate or have your partner watch you masturbate?

75. Would you rather switch clothes with your partner or be naked all weekend? 

76. Would you rather play a game of truth or dare or strip poker? 

77. Would you rather have really cheesy dirty talk or have completely silent sex? 

78. Would you rather have sex with your celebrity crush or your high school crush? 

79. Would you rather hear your neighbors have sex or hear your neighbors have sex?

80. Would you rather use sex toys or handcuffs? 

81. Would you rather reveal your deepest sexual fantasy, or share your most embarrassing sex story?

82. Would you rather do OnlyFans together or publish our sex tape? 

83. Would you rather have a love bite on your neck or on your chest? 

84. Would you rather sleep with someone who is completely silent or someone who’s extremely loud while they have sex?

85. Would you rather receive a nude or a dirty text?

86. Would you rather try a new sex position or a new sex toy?

87. Would you rather watch porn or read erotica?

88. Would you rather have sex with your biggest celebrity crush or your favorite porn star? 

89. Would you rather have a quickie and always orgasm or long passionate sex but never orgasm? 

90. Would you rather have sex only in darkness or in too bright lighting?

91. Would you rather end a first date with sex or with passionate sex? 

92. Would you rather have your partner only be able to use your hands or their mouth during foreplay? 

93. Would you rather try pole dancing or lap dancing?

94. Would you rather have amazing foreplay or amazing sex? But never both? 

95. Would you rather suck my toes or have your toes sucked? 

96. Would you rather make a sex tape or write erotica about us? 

97. Would you rather use wax play or spanking as foreplay? 

98. Would you rather lose all sense of touch or all sense of taste? 

99. Would you rather be bad at foreplay or be bad at sex? 

100. Would you rather only orgasm once a year or orgasm every time you sneeze? 

101. Would you rather fart during sex or burp every time you orgasm? 

102. Would you rather give or receive a lap dance? 

103. Would you rather have a one-night stand with a stranger or your childhood best friend? 

104. Would you rather publish your search history or publish your nudes? 

105. Would you rather be really skilled in the bedroom or really attractive? 

106. Would you rather have a friend with benefits or a one-night stand every weekend? 

107. Would you rather have bad breath during sex or bad body odor? 

108. Would you prefer to try using blindfolds or handcuffs? 

109. Would you rather cuddle or make out? 

110. Would you rather have a threesome or only have sex with one person forever? 

111. Would you rather give me a hickey or I give you a hickey? 

112. Would you rather have sex in a public bathroom or a public library? 

113. Would you rather get oral in a public place or have sex in public? 

114. Would you rather have me sext you or have phone sex? 

115. Would you rather have your parents see your sex tape or watch your partner’s sex tape? 

116. Would you rather date someone with a foot fetish or with a public sex fetish? 

117. Would you rather only have missionary sex or only have doggy-style sex? 

118. Would you rather have a great sex life with an unattractive person or a terrible sex life with the most beautiful person in the world? 

119. Would you rather tease your partner with hot wax or ice cubes? 

120. Would you rather have the best sex of your life only once or be stuck with mediocre sex forever? 

121. Would you rather have to poop every time you have sex or need to pee during sex every time? 

122. Would you rather play a dirty party game with a group of friends or by yourself? 

123. Would you rather have a quickie every day or passionate sex once a week? 

124. Would you rather try roleplay or try using sex toys? 

125. Would you rather be teased all day or have a quickie? 

126. Would you rather play dirty never have I ever or dirty truth or dare? 

127. Would you rather have to review everyone you have sex with or have them review you? 

128. Would you rather undress me with your hands or with your teeth?

129. Would you rather have our kisses taste like candy or like your favorite cocktail?

130. Would you rather make love on a boat under the stars or in a field during a thunderstorm?

131. Would you rather have me do a sexy dance in private or in a place where there’s a slight risk of being seen?

132. Would you rather explore a deserted island together or get lost in a foreign city together?

133. Would you rather try aphrodisiacs for a night or commit to a day of celibacy before our date to build tension?

134. Would you rather send flirty signals with your eyes from across the room or with subtle touches while standing close?

135. Would you rather leave love bites in hidden places or somewhere visible?

136. Would you rather incorporate honey or ice cream into our bedroom play?

137. Would you rather have an intense eye contact challenge or a ticklish whisper challenge?

138. Would you rather explore each other’s bodies with feathers or with silk scarves?

139. Would you rather engage in a seductive water fight in the shower or in a pool?

140. Would you rather play a game where the loser has to strip or where the loser submits to a dare?

141. Would you rather recreate a scene from your favorite sexy movie or from a steamy novel?

142. Would you rather have me in sexy lingerie or in one of your shirts?

143. Would you rather spend an evening stargazing naked or sunbathing naked?

144. Would you rather have a sensuous food fight or a sensual body painting session?

145. Would you rather get a naughty temporary tattoo in a private area or wear glow-in-the-dark body paint?

146. Would you rather guess the flavor of lip gloss I’m wearing with a kiss or identify a scent I’m wearing with your nose blindfolded?

147. Would you rather have passionate sex in a sleeping bag while camping or in a hammock on a secluded beach?

148. Would you rather play a game of naughty 20 questions or have a steamy storytelling session?

149. Would you rather be woken up with gentle kissing or with provocative touching?

150. Would you rather have me wear high heels or absolutely nothing on my feet during our intimate times?

151. Would you rather receive a sensual poem or a dirty limerick about us?

152. Would you rather spend an evening making aphrodisiac cocktails or baking seductive desserts together?

153. Would you rather have a relaxing date night with massages and aromatherapy or an adventurous date with sexy challenges?

154. Would you rather find me waiting for you wearing only a bow or dressed up in a provocative costume?

155. Would you rather write erotic fiction together or create an intimate photo book together?

156. Would you rather give a sexy performance on webcam for each other or record an audio message of our intimate moments?

157. Would you rather experiment with body glitter or with scented oils?

158. Would you rather have a naughty picnic indoors or a sultry swim session at night?

159. Would you rather search for an erogenous zone on me that you’ve never discovered before or have me find a new one on you?

160. Would you rather have me serenade you with a sexy song or perform a striptease to your favorite tune?

161. Would you rather we try new positions based on a Kama Sutra book or on something we randomly invent?

162. Would you rather have a tickle fight in bed or a pillow fight in our underwear?

163. Would you rather engage in a passionate rendezvous in a vineyard or in an art gallery after hours?

164. Would you rather create a secret code word for "I want you" or have a special signal we can use in public?

165. Would you rather cuddle in silence after making love or have deep conversations?

166. Would you rather wake up to a steamy good morning text or a suggestive voice message?

167. Would you rather have our own private dance floor at home or dance with me in a club where there's a chance of others joining?

168. Would you rather experiment with different types of massage oils or with a variety of flavored lubes?

169. Would you rather have a night of sexy truth or dare or spend hours with a couple’s “question and answer” game that gets progressively more intimate?

170. Would you rather send me on a scavenger hunt that leads to you or have me create a sexy puzzle for you to solve?

171. Would you rather have your erogenous zones explored with a soft brush or with gentle air puffs?

172. Would you rather have a full-on make-out session in the last row of a movie theater or in the back of a taxi?

173. Would you rather cook together in the nude or take a naked yoga class together?

174. Would you rather be surprised with a sexy outfit I've chosen for you or pick out something for me? 

175. Would you rather whisper naughty things into my ear at a party or send me explicit texts while we're at a dinner with friends?

176. Would you rather incorporate whipped cream or melted chocolate into our bedroom activities?

177. Would you rather have me wear a blindfold for an entire day, trusting you to guide me, or have you wear the blindfold?

178. Would you rather explore each other's bodies in complete silence for one hour or have one hour of non-stop dirty talk?

179. Would you rather role-play as strangers meeting for the "first time" again or pretend we're long-lost lovers reuniting?

180. Would you rather have a steamy car make-out session or sneak into a park after dark for a romantic encounter?

181. Would you rather have me greet you at the door naked after work or wearing only an apron while cooking dinner?

182. Would you rather engage in a seductive wrestling match or have a contest to see who can tease the other more without going all the way?

183. Would you rather be serenaded by me with a love song in public or receive a sexy striptease in private?

184. Would you rather engage in a spicy "hide and seek" where the finder gets a 'prize' or play "capture the flag" where the flag is an intimate garment?

185. Would you rather have to loudly narrate every action during intimacy or have to act out each other's fantasies without any discussion?

186. Would you rather have me perform a lap dance at a private party for you or with you on a night out?

187. Would you rather shower together by candlelight or take a bubble bath surrounded by glow sticks?

188. Would you rather have an intimate picnic in the living room or a sexy midnight snack in bed?

189. Would you rather spend an evening exploring tantric practices or attend a discreet couple’s workshop?

190. Would you rather write a list of "must-tries" in the bedroom or create a "fantasy jar" where we draw one paper each week?

191. Would you rather have a teasing feather during foreplay or use silk ties as gentle restraints?

192. Would you rather indulge in a chocolate fondue that leads to more playful activities or start with sensual fruit feeding?

193. Would you rather have me leave a trail of rose petals that leads to a surprise or a trail of provocative notes with clues to find me?

194. Would you rather have a partner who is a loud moaner or one who talks dirty in multiple languages during sex?

195. Would you rather go skinny dipping in a private pool under the moonlight or in a lake at dawn?

196. Would you rather receive a sensual massage under a warm rain setting or in a room filled with scented candles?

197. Would you rather we attempt to recreate the sexiest movie scene you can think of or create our own unforgettable scene?

198. Would you rather have to wear vibrating underwear that I control for an entire date or be teased with a remote-controlled sex toy at home?

199. Would you rather have a partner who's into elaborate role-play scenarios or one who's into spontaneous quickies in risky places?

200. Would you rather play an adult board game that gets naughtier with each round or have a sexy scavenger hunt at home?

201. Would you rather have me draw on you with edible body paint or you draw on me, with each drawing leading to a kiss in that spot?

202. Would you rather get a sensual workout together or have a "dessert only" dinner where everything is eaten off of each other?

203. Would you rather have to stay silent while watching an erotic film together or have to act out a scene from the film?

204. Would you rather surprise each other with a new erotic toy every month or choose a new sexy challenge to complete?

205. Would you rather have a tickling session that leads to more or a playful pillow fight that turns into a make-out session?

206. Would you rather be dared to go commando on our next date or wear something provocative under your regular clothes?

207. Would you rather have to take a cold shower every time you feel aroused or only be able to express your arousal through poetry?

208. Would you rather have a partner who initiates a sexy shower together every morning or one who ensures the night ends with a sensual massage?

209. Would you rather have me serve you breakfast in bed wearing nothing but an apron or have me prepare a candlelit dinner in my sexiest outfit?

210. Would you rather be able to have sex in complete silence or only be able to have sex with cheesy romantic music playing?

211. Would you rather leave a sexy voicemail on each other’s phones or exchange naughty notes hidden around the house?

212. Would you rather indulge in a slow, sensual dance every night or have an impromptu make-out session at any moment of the day?

213. Would you rather explore a deserted island together, with the thrill of possible public intimacy, or have a secluded cabin in the woods for a weekend of uninterrupted privacy?

214. Would you rather be challenged to make each other climax using only words or only touch, but with no direct genital contact?

215. Would you rather engage in a game where you must guess the flavor of various exotic oils on each other's skin or try out different natural aphrodisiacs to see their effects?

216. Would you rather have a sensual food fight with foods like strawberries and whipped cream or have a clean-up session together in the shower afterward?

217. Would you rather write each other a steamy love letter once a week or send a sexy "good morning" picture every day?

218. Would you rather wake up to a detailed fantasy narration from your partner or fall asleep while listening to an erotic audiobook together?

219. Would you rather have a romantic evening where every sentence must start with a compliment or have a teasing argument where every jab ends with a wink?

220. Would you rather have your partner recreate a scene from your favorite steamy novel or act out an intimate moment from a romance movie of your choice?

221. Would you rather play a card game where the loser has to remove an item of clothing or a board game where each square involves a physical dare?

222. Would you rather have an unexpected passionate encounter during a thunderstorm or on a hot summer night?

223. Would you rather create a playlist of songs that all have a special sexy meaning to your relationship or pick a song to act as the theme for a night of passion?

224. Would you rather have a partner who writes you sultry haikus or one who leaves you racy limericks?

225. Would you rather give each other a body paint session with neon colors or have a night where your bodies are the canvas for glow-in-the-dark paints?

226. Would you rather play a sexy version of hide-and-seek, where being found leads to a sensual consequence, or have a game of "capture the flag" where the flag is a piece of intimate apparel?

227. Would you rather experiment with different accents during foreplay or keep switching roles of dominance and submission with each new encounter?

228. Would you rather have your partner dress as a fictional character you find attractive or you dress up for them based on their fantasy?

229. Would you rather be serenaded with a sexy song under the moonlight or wake up to a provocative dance by your partner?

230. Would you rather play a game of "sexy Simon says" or a round of "intimate charades" with just the two of you?

231. Would you rather have to speak in innuendos for an entire day or only be able to communicate your desires through body language?

232. Would you rather participate in a couple's yoga session that slowly becomes more intimate or have a workout session that includes sexy challenges for each set completed?

233. Would you rather have a pillow fort built for adult-only activities or create a secret code language just for your intimate moments?

234. Would you rather experiment with temperature play using hot and cold sensations or try out different textures, like silk and velvet, against your skin?

235. Would you rather have a partner who always wears your favorite scent or one who surprises you with a new and enticing fragrance every time you meet?

236. Would you rather play a flirty game of "20 Questions" where each question gets more provocative or engage in a truth-or-dare session with only "dare" as an option?

237. Would you rather have to leave a loving and flirty note for your partner every day or receive one?

238. Would you rather send your partner a risqué package at work or surprise them with a steamy car wash in the driveway?

239. Would you rather plan a heist where the 'loot' is a new erotic toy for each of you or have a treasure hunt where the map leads to intimate rewards?

240. Would you rather have your partner leave a trail of their clothing from the door to where they're waiting for you or find them with a bow as the only thing they're wearing?