How to Master Facetime Sex: Spicy Tips & Tricks

How can I initiate FaceTime sex with my partner in a comfortable and consensual way?
on February 19, 2024
Read time: 10 mins

We all have our awkward moments on video calls. From getting flustered over the unmute button to your cat climbing across your keyboard, we’ve all had our struggles!

But when it comes to Facetime sex, it’s not something you want to mess up! 

Even though Facetime sex can be a tricky one to master, if you get it right, it can be the perfect sexual outlet for long-distance lovers. So get ready to set the mood and start the call with our ultimate tips for those spicier phone calls! 

Key Takeaways
  • Communication and consent are key for ensuring couples get the most from Facetime sex. Before you start that call, make sure your partner is comfortable with getting intimate on screen and then you can go from there!
  • To enhance the virtual experience, make the effort to set the mood with lingerie, lighting, and even some teasing sexts or previews.
  • Utilize secure platforms like Facetime, which offers end-to-end encryption, to protect your intimate moments and to ensure you both feel safe and secure throughout the experience.

What is Facetime sex? 

Facetime sex is a way to engage in mutual sexual satisfaction with your partner and is usually utilized by LDR couples to stay sexually connected while apart. 

As a step up from sexting, video sex allows couples to have a more visual and sensory sexual experience — even when they’re miles apart. Even though Facetime is a popular choice for iPhone users, couples can use any video-call platform they’re comfortable with to achieve the same experience. 

How to have Facetime sex with your partner

If it’s your first time having Facetime sex, it can all feel a bit overwhelming!

It’s totally normal to feel self-conscious, and awkward, and to constantly question yourself ‘Am I doing this right??’ or ‘Is my partner even enjoying this?’ The key to successful Facetime sex lies in communication, as you both have to feel comfortable to ensure you get the most from the experience. 

Even though it’s tempting to just point your camera down there and leave it at that — it’s equally important to create a space of equal enjoyment. Get creative and embrace the silliness of the situation to ensure you’re both enjoying each other’s company!

How can I make FaceTime sex more comfortable and enjoyable for both partners?

If you’re thinking about engaging in Facetime sex with your long-distance lover for the first time, there are a lot of things to consider before you hit call. 

Before you initiate sexy time on the call, you should have an open and honest conversation with your partner about their boundaries. Some people might not be comfortable participating in video or phone sex (for numerous reasons), and it’s important to understand that and respect that before getting carried away on your next call!

Once you have both consented and are open to the idea, there are many ways to ensure it’s both comfortable and fun for you both! From virtual strip teases to those camera angles, it can feel like a whole new world but if you both get into it…. It can also be a lot of fun! 

Tips for Facetime sex (to make sure it’s fun!) 

  1. Set the mood: While Facetime sex isn’t quite the same as the real thing, it’s still important to set the mood so you both can get the most enjoyment out of it. So put on that sexy lingerie and send your partner some pics beforehand to spice things up! Or, if you just can’t wait, sexting is also a great way to get you both excited! 

  2. Think about the extras: Before starting up that video call, think about what kind of extra props you might like to use while you’re on camera. If you’re engaging in mutual masturbation, you could use certain sex toys such as vibrators or dildos during the call (as long as your partner is okay with it!) 

  3. Know your angles: While it might feel weird to flirt with your webcam (or your iPhone camera) — you have to go for it! Get up close and personal with your partner through your camera and have fun teasing them with different views and angles. If you’re struggling to juggle everything at once, it might be a good idea to invest in a hands-free accessory to help you out! 

  4. Be vocal: Dirty talk is your best friend when it comes to Skype or Facetime sex! Ask them what they’d like to do to you, what you’d do to them… You know the rest! (It’s the perfect time to keep that unmute button on…) 

  5. Make eye contact: As with your non-virtual sex life, eye contact is a huge turn-on, as well as a major touchpoint for both emotional and physical intimacy. 

  6. Play sex games: Whether you want to engage in a bit of role-play or make your partner go wild with a strip tease, it’s important to have fun with it! Or, why not play a game of dirty truth or dare to get you started? 

  7. Make sure you’re at the same level: Try to check in with your partner throughout the call to make sure you’re both enjoying the call and that one person isn’t racing ahead!

  8. Don’t forget to laugh: Even though it’s tempting, don’t be tempted to aim for the perfection set by pornstars! Embrace the funny side of this spicy interaction and you’ll both it way more. 

  9. Embrace the awkwardness: Just like phone sex, this kind of sexual activity can lead to some awkward moments — and that’s okay! You should both try to make each other feel comfortable, supported, and safe throughout the call to ensure you get the most from it! 

  10. Let go of your inhibitions: If you’re going to get there with your partner over video chat, you have to relax! While it might seem silly at first, get into it with your partner and leave your inhibitions at the door — you’ll enjoy it way more! 

Is Facetime sex safe? 

Technology can pose a lot of privacy concerns, especially when you’re thinking about getting down and dirty on a video call — you want to make sure that kind of thing is private. 

When it comes to Facetime sex though, it’s completely safe for users as it offers end-to-end encryption. This means that no audio or video data can be decrypted by Apple or other servers, so you can feel certain of your virtual safety. 

How can I protect my privacy during FaceTime sex?

In the virtual world, there is no way to 100% ensure that your privacy is protected. 

While Facetime is known to be a secure way of communication, WhatsApp and iMessage don’t always offer the same privacy — which is why it’s always important to check your settings and be aware of the safety of each app before using it for any NSFW purposes. 

Frequently Asked Questions

  • How can I set boundaries for virtual intimacy in a long-distance relationship?

    Facetime sex isn’t for everyone, and if you want to utilize its perks in your long-distance relationship, it’s important to set boundaries for both your and your partner’s comfort and security. For example, your partner might prefer a phone call, or might not want to be naked on camera. It’s important to respect these boundaries to have a mutually satisfying experience.
  • Is it normal for my long-distance boyfriend to ask for video sex?

    Yes, in a long-distance relationship, since sex is usually off the table couples have to get inventive with their sexual exploits! Phone or video sex can be a great way to strengthen your physical and sexual connection (even while you’re apart!)
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