150 ‘How Well Do You Know Your Partner’ Questions to Test Your Relationship

How do you truly know your partner?
on February 26, 2024
Read time: 10 mins
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When you’ve been with your significant other for years, you might start to think you know everything about them. But no matter how long you’ve been together there’s always something new to learn — and taking our how well do you know your partner questions is a great way to test your couple's knowledge. 

While it doesn’t need to be a full-scale couples quiz night every time (even though the Newlywed Game is pretty fun), these how well do you know me questions are a great way to gauge how well you know your partner, and how much you still have to learn about one another. Asking these fun questions can be a great way to reconnect, and even be a springboard for new, uncharted conversations. 

Don’t worry if you get any of these questions wrong — it’s just a chance to get to know each other better! And if you ace all of them, you can rejoice in the fact that you’re completely in sync.

Should you know everything about your partner? 

Even though some couples vow that they know every single thing about their romantic partner, this couldn’t possibly be true!

At Paired, we believe that there is always something more to learn about your significant other! Throughout life, we’re all constantly evolving, both as individuals and in our romantic relationships. This is why there are always so many opportunities to get to know your partner on a deeper level — with the Paired daily question only scratching the surface!

In fact, experts say that knowing your partner inside and out is key to a happy and healthy relationship. In her long-term study on marital happiness, relationship therapist and academic Dr. Terri Orbuch found that relationship satisfaction is partly contingent on how deeply and intimately two partners know each other — including how well they know each other's thoughts, feelings, and vulnerabilities.

Meanwhile, psychologist and relationship expert Dr. John Gottman believes that a strong predictor of relationship stability is how much partners know about each other's "inner worlds". This knowledge helps couples stay connected in stressful times, rather than becoming strangers to each other.

How can you learn more about your partner? 

In a romantic relationship, every day is a new opportunity to get to know each other! When you’ve been with your partner long-term, it’s tempting to approach conversations as if you already know everything they’re going to say. 

However, if you really want to learn more about your loved one, it’s important to remain receptive to new faucets of their character that you’ve never explored before. And while it may seem odd that you don’t get every question right, think of it as a learning experience rather than a sign you’re a bad partner!

What are the best questions to ask to really know your partner?

  1. What was your partner’s favorite childhood game or activity?

  2. Is anything stressing your partner out at the moment? What?

  3. Can you name one of your partner’s life dreams?

  4. What’s the first thing your partner would do if they won the lottery?

  5. What’s your partner’s idea of a perfect date night?

  6. What’s your partner’s favorite sexual position?

  7. If your partner had to eat one dish for the rest of their lives, what would it be?

  8. What’s your partner’s love language?

  9. What’s your partner’s favorite holiday destination?

  10. What’s at the top of your partner’s bucket list?

  11. If your partner could do any job in the world, which would they pick?

  12. How does your partner like to spend their free time? 

  13. What’s your partner’s biggest pet peeve?

  14. Does your partner have any irrational fears? If so, what are they?

  15. How does your partner feel about surprises?

  16. What’s your partner’s biggest insecurity? 

  17. If your partner had a superpower, what would it be?

  18. What’s one movie your partner could watch over and over and never get tired of?

  19. What’s your partner’s favorite form of physical intimacy?

  20. As a kid, what did your partner want to be when they grew up?

  21. Does your partner have any regrets? If so, which ones?

  22. What was your partner’s first job?

  23. What is your favorite restaurant? 

  24. What would be your ideal first date? 

  25. What’s your partner’s biggest sexual fantasy?

  26. What’s your partner’s biggest dealbreaker in a relationship?

  27. How does your partner like to be apologized to?

  28. If your partner could live anywhere in the world, where would they live?

  29. What was your partner’s favorite subject in school? 

  30. Was your partner popular in high school?

  31. What’s the most dangerous thing your partner has ever done?

  32. Has your partner ever had any operations?

  33. What’s your partner’s most embarrassing memory? 

  34. Who was your partner’s best friend(s) growing up? 

  35. Which of your habits irritates your partner the most?

  36. What is your favorite book to re-read over and over? 

  37. What are your go-to conversation starters when you meet someone new? 

  38. What is your favorite movie to watch when you’re feeling upset? 

  39. What is your favorite color to wear? 

  40. What is your dream job? 

  41. Which of your exes would you never want to speak to again? 

  42. What is your favorite TV show from your childhood? 

  43. What is the best gift you’ve ever received? 

  44. What is the most important aspect of compatibility for you? 

  45. What was your dream job as a child? 

  46. What is your biggest fear in a relationship? 

  47. What is your zodiac sign? 

  48. What is your favorite thing about the place you grew up? 

  49. Do you consider yourself more of an introvert or an extrovert? 

  50. How did your last relationship end? 

  51. What do you think is the best way to look after your mental health? 

  52. What song always puts you in a good mood?

  53. What's a talent you wish you had?

  54. What's your favorite way to relax after a stressful day?

  55. What's a childhood memory that makes you smile?

  56. What's your favorite book and why?

  57. What's something you've always wanted to learn but haven't yet?

  58. What's an achievement you're proud of?

  59. What's a habit you're trying to break or develop?

  60. What's something you're afraid of losing?

  61. What do you value most in a friendship?

  62. What's your favorite family tradition?

  63. What's something you wish everyone knew about you?

  64. What's a skill you've learned that you're most proud of?

  65. How do you handle disagreements or conflicts?

  66. What's your favorite way to spend a weekend?

  67. What's something you've done that you never thought you'd do?

  68. What's your favorite thing to cook or bake?

  69. What's a book that changed your life?

  70. What's an experience that made you stronger?

  71. What's something you're looking forward to?

  72. What's your favorite way to show someone you care?

  73. What's a goal you have for the next year?

  74. What's your favorite quote or saying?

  75. What's a lesson you've learned the hard way?

  76. What's something you're grateful for today?

  77. What's your favorite outdoor activity?

  78. What's a movie or show you're embarrassed to admit you love?

  79. What's your favorite thing to do on a rainy day?

  80. What's something you want to do but haven't done yet?

  81. What's a place you've visited that you can't forget?

  82. What's your favorite memory of us together?

  83. What's something you're curious about right now?

  84. What's a challenge you've faced recently?

  85. What's something you've changed your mind about over the years?

  86. What's your favorite thing about your career?

  87. What's something you wish you could tell your younger self?

  88. What's a piece of advice you've received that stuck with you?

  89. What's your favorite way to spend time with family?

  90. What's something you do to take care of yourself?

  91. What's a fear you've overcome?

  92. What's something you find beautiful that others might not notice?

  93. What's a personal rule you never break?

  94. What's something you've sacrificed for a loved one?

  95. What's a tradition you want to start?

  96. What's something you learned from your parents?

  97. What's your favorite thing about your personality?

  98. What's a hobby you've always wanted to pick up?

  99. What's something you do that makes you feel young again?

  100. What's a song that has special meaning for you?

  101. What's something you've done to push yourself out of your comfort zone?

  102. What's your favorite way to give back to others?

  103. What's a small act of kindness that you believe makes a big difference?

  104. What's your idea of a perfect morning?

  105. What's something you've always wanted to say but haven't found the right moment?

  106. How do you prefer to celebrate your achievements?

  107. What's a place you've always wanted to travel to and why?

  108. What's a language you wish you could speak fluently?

  109. What's your favorite comfort food?

  110. What's something you're proud of but don't often talk about?

  111. What's a habit you admire in others and wish to adopt?

  112. What's a topic you could spend hours talking about?

  113. What's your favorite way to unwind after a long week?

  114. What's a book or movie that profoundly impacted your perspective?

  115. What's a tradition from your childhood that you would like to pass on?

  116. What's something you would like to change about your daily routine?

  117. What's a fear you'd like to conquer together with me?

  118. What's a project or hobby you'd like to start in the next year?

  119. What's your favorite memory from our time together so far?

  120. What's an aspect of your culture or heritage that you cherish?

  121. What's something you believe everyone should try at least once?

  122. What's your favorite way to express love?

  123. What's a personal challenge you've set for yourself recently?

  124. What's something you wish you had more time for?

  125. What's an activity that makes you lose track of time?

  126. What's your favorite season and why?

  127. What's something you find therapeutic?

  128. What's an item you treasure with sentimental value?

  129. What's a life lesson you learned the hard way?

  130. What's an achievement that has shaped who you are today?

  131. What's a childhood hobby you'd like to revisit?

  132. What's a piece of technology you're grateful for?

  133. What's a social issue you feel passionate about?

  134. What's an act of self-care that you find most rejuvenating?

  135. What's a subject you wish you knew more about?

  136. What's your favorite thing to do together on a weekend?

  137. What's a skill you've learned from a friend or family member?

  138. What's something you'd like to learn together with me?

  139. What's a movie or show that you can't wait to watch together?

  140. What's your favorite way to celebrate special occasions?

  141. What's something you find challenging about relationships in general?

  142. What's your favorite way to receive encouragement?

  143. What's a goal we can set as a couple for the next year?

  144. What's something you'd like to create or build?

  145. What's a piece of advice you've received that you'd pass on to others?

  146. What's something you've done that felt out of character but was rewarding?

  147. What's an experience you feel everyone should have?

  148. What's your favorite way to spend time outdoors?

  149. What’s the most important thing you look for in a new relationship? 

  150. What’s your favorite dessert when you need some comfort food?

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