If you’ve looked up “romantic questions for couples”, chances are you recognize how important romance can be in a relationship, or you want to inject some more romance into your life.
Whether or not you find it corny expressing everyday romantic gestures can do wonders for your relationship. That’s because romance isn’t always about grand gestures like whisking your partner away on an unforgettable getaway. Rather, it’s about fostering connection and appreciation for one another.
“At its heart, romance is about love and intimacy and the desire for affection with your partner, usually through thoughtful gestures that aim to foster togetherness and elicit a positive and loving response,” explains Dr. Jacqui Gabb, a professor of sociology and intimacy at The Open University and Chief Relationships Officer at Paired.
“Psychologists suggest that the concept of romance is dependent on one’s personal behavior and attitudes as well as cultural context,” she adds. “As such, there are no hard and fast rules when it comes to being romantic, it’s about getting to know your partner and understanding which loving gestures mean the most to them.”
So, we put together 60 romantic questions for couples to get to know one another better, and help them understand what romance means to their partner.
How did you first know you were in love with your partner?
What is the most romantic thing your partner does?
How do you most often express love and appreciation to your partner?
What’s been the most romantic day you’ve spent together?
What romantic thing do you wish your partner did more often?
What’s the best lesson you’ve learned about romance?
What’s your favorite romantic comedy?
Do you think romance is important in relationships? Why or why not?
What’s your favorite romantic activity to do as a couple?
Do you like to celebrate Valentine’s day? If so, how?
What type of romantic gestures means the most to you?
What does your partner do that makes you feel sexy?
What’s the most romantic thing you’ve done for each other lately?
What does an ideal date night look like to you?
Do you prefer small or grand romantic gestures?
What’s an underrated romantic gesture, in your opinion?
What is your love language?
What love song reminds you of your partner?
What’s the most romantic meal to share?
What’s your favorite thing about your relationship?
What does romance mean to you?
How do you like to get in the mood?
Do you prefer cozy evenings at home together, or out at a fancy restaurant?
Who’s the better kisser?
What do you think is the secret to a happy relationship?
What’s one physical trait you love about your partner?
What does falling in love feel like to you?
What does heartbreak feel like to you?
What would your couple name be?
What does “home” look like to you?
What outfit do you think your partner looks sexiest in?
What’s something you’ve never tried in bed, but want to?
What non-sexual thing does your partner do that turns you on?
Would you prefer to have a couple’s massage or go dancing together?
What makes your relationship special?
Do you prefer evening or morning sex?
How would you describe your relationship using one word?
Do you prefer sexting or talking dirty?
What’s your favorite way to be intimate?
Is giving and receiving gifts important to you?
What’s one important lesson about relationships that you’ll never forget?
If you could grow old together, what would your life look like?
What do you love about your partner that they don’t like about themselves?
Would you prefer to go for a walk on the beach or a stroll in the park?
In what ways do you complement each other?
What would you find more romantic: a spontaneous love letter or a spontaneous candlelit dinner?
How would you feel if your partner wrote you a love song?
Do you like going to weddings?
What was your favorite fairy tale growing up?
Who’s a couple you look up to as relationship role models?
If you could go on an all-expenses-paid romantic getaway, where would you go?
What do you find more romantic: watching the sunrise together, or watching the sunset together?
What’s your favorite pet name for each other?
What do you think about public displays of affection?
How do you feel about posting your relationship on social media?
What does “happily ever after” mean to you?
Do you believe in love at first sight? Why or why not?
Who’s the most romantic in the relationship?
Which of your relationship rituals makes you feel the most loved?
What do you think is the difference between romance and lust?
Download the Paired app for more romantic questions for couples.