110 Conversation Starters for Texting To Keep That Convo Flowing

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on April 08, 2024
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Sliding into the DM’s or sending a good morning text is one thing, but knowing how to keep that conversation flowing is a whole other ball game!

When the replies start to slow down, or you boldly want to pop up in your crushes notifications, these conversation starters for texting are the perfect thing to reignite that conversation. 

From funny to flirty conversation starters, your thumbs are under threat, as these opening lines and questions are bound to get that chat absolutely popping! 

How do you start a conversation over text?

Sending that first text message can be a very daunting prospect! In the world of ghosting and the dreaded read receipt, it’s important to make that winning first impression over text to set that flirty conversation in motion! 

While you can’t read their body language over the phone, there are so many cute ways to weave in your sense of humor and your banter into the conversation — making it easier to gauge how things are going! 

When it comes to starting a conversation, it’s all about tailoring it to your loved one, rather than popping up with a dry ‘What’s up?’ text (or a ‘You up?’...) Those open-ended questions are a great way to protect yourself from being left on read, and to work towards building on that kind of fun conversation that flows and feels natural! 

How can I be a fun texter?

While some people are pros at flirty banter over text, lots of people struggle with the art of flirty text — especially when it comes to the constant upkeep of interesting conversation. 

Through no fault of your own, texting can often become diluted into chit-chat or small talk, with your texts teetering on the edge of becoming dull! While you might try and spice things up with a question, it can be tough to keep that conversation flowing (especially if you naturally come across better in person!) 

Being a fun texter is a natural gift for some, but for others, it’s important to have a few fun text conversation starters tucked away in your notes app to spark that great conversation! Whether it’s a random question or a cheeky pick-up line, these conversation topics can help you build that connection over text until you see each other again. 

Throwing in a few emojis, memes, and gifs also never hurts! 

What are some good conversation starters over text?

Whether you’re migrating from dating apps for the first time, or are sliding into their DMs to set up that all-important date night, these are some good conversation starters for texting that everyone should have ready to go! 

Flirty opening text messages to try out 

  1. Is it hot in here, or is it just our impending conversation?

  2. I hope you're a fan of cheesy pickup lines because if you were a vegetable, you'd be a cutecumber.

  3. Just so you know, I'm currently accepting applications for someone to go on cute coffee dates with. Must be fluent in banter.

  4. I must be a snowflake because I've fallen for you.

  5. Guess what I’m wearing? The smile you just gave me.

  6. I’m not a photographer, but I can definitely picture us together.

  7. Can I borrow a map? I keep getting lost in your eyes.

  8. In the mood for some magic? Watch me make this conversation go from boring to interesting in one message.

  9. If we were at a fruit market, I’d pick you first.

  10. My day has been pretty good, but it could be better with a message from you.

  11. I was today years old when I realized I needed you in my life.

  12. If you were a song, you’d be the top hit on my playlist.

  13. Quick question: How does someone like you not have a line of people waiting to talk to them?

  14. Are you made of copper and tellurium? Because you’re Cu-Te.

  15. Just in case you needed a sign to start a conversation with someone incredibly interesting and fun... This is it.

  16. I’m not saying you’re a thief, but you definitely stole my attention.

  17. Warning: I'm much better in person but willing to make an exception for you.

  18. Hey, my name's Microsoft. Can I crash at your place tonight?

  19. Did we just share an elevator? Because I think we've got some levels of chemistry here.

  20. Do you believe in love at first text, or should I send another one?

Conversation starters for texting after a first date 

  1. Is it too soon to say I miss our conversation already? Because I definitely don’t follow the three-day rule.

  2. So, on a scale from 1 to America, how free are you to talk about how amazing our date was?

  3. I've been trying to think of a clever way to ask if you enjoyed our date as much as I did, but I guess I just did.

  4. Quick! What's the first emoji that comes to your mind when you think of our date last night?

  5. If our first date was a movie, think it’d be more of a romantic comedy or an action-packed adventure?

  6. I'm currently accepting nominations for the best first-date story. Spoiler: I think we're winning.

  7. Did you feel those sparks flying, or should we schedule a second date to be sure?

  8. Help me settle a bet: My friend says it's too early to be planning our next adventure together. I say they're wrong. Thoughts?

  9. I’m still laughing about that story you told me. Care to share another one?

  10. I thought about sending you something flirty, but I think I’m still dazzled from our date last night.

  11. In case you were wondering, yes, it’s totally normal to be this excited about how well our date went.

  12. I hope you’re thinking about me as much as I’m thinking about our next date. Any ideas?

  13. How would you feel about continuing our conversation over dinner again? I promise to let you pick the topic this time!

  14. If we were both characters in a romance novel, how do you think the author would describe our first date?

  15. Just so you know, I’m officially banning all first dates I have in the future because I don’t see how they could top ours.

  16. Can we skip to the part where we’re comfortable enough to send each other memes?

  17. I’ve got a funny story that I forgot to tell you on our date. Ready to hear it?

  18. Just checking in to make sure you’re still as intrigued by me as I am by you.

  19. If I were to hypothetically ask you out again, which day would hypothetically work best for you?

  20. On a scale of "just a bit" to "absolutely," how much are you smiling right now thinking about our date?

Good conversation starters for texting to get to know each other

  1. What’s something you’re looking forward to this week, and how can I be the highlight?

  2. If you could spend a day with anyone in the world, living or dead, who would it be and why? Bonus points if it’s me.

  3. What’s a movie you can never get tired of watching, and can we watch it together?

  4. Tell me about a place you've always wanted to visit. Maybe we’ll find ourselves there on a road trip adventure. 

  5. What’s the most spontaneous thing you’ve ever done? I’m asking for a friend who’s planning our next adventure.

  6. If you had to choose one song to be your life’s soundtrack, what would it be and why? I’ll add it to my playlist.

  7. What’s something you’re passionate about, and what makes it so special to you? Let’s see if I can match your enthusiasm.

  8. Describe your perfect day from morning to night. I’m taking notes for future reference.

  9. What’s a skill you wish you had? I’m offering to be your practice buddy.

  10. If you had to give up one form of social media, what would it be? (I’m hoping it’s not that chat…) 

  11. Tell me about a book that changed your life. I’m looking for my next read, preferably one that makes me think of you.

  12. What’s your idea of a perfect vacation? Let’s see if our travel dreams align.

  13. If you could only keep three apps on your phone, which ones would you choose? I’m curious to see if we’re app-compatible.

  14. What’s a childhood dream you still want to fulfill? Maybe we can make it a reality together.

  15. If we were an iconic Netflix couple, who would we be? I hope it’s someone from one of your favorite movies! 

  16. What’s the most embarrassing thing you’re willing to admit? Don’t worry, your secret’s safe with me.

  17. Do we have the same favorite food? I want to know what our future fridge is going to look like. 

  18. If you could go back in time to high school, would you? Spoiler alert: you’d have to meet me in my dorky glasses and braces. 

  19. What’s your pet peeve? I’ll tell you mine if you tell me yours. 

  20. What is your favorite place to spend the weekend, and am I invited? 

Romantic texting conversation starters for a new relationship 

  1. When you’re in that mood, how do you want to spend your free time? (Just taking notes) 

  2. If you could act out a scene from a TV show, what would it be? And most importantly, do I feature in it? 

  3. What’s your favorite thing to eat for breakfast? Thinking about our next lazy Sunday morning. 

  4. When was the last time I popped into your head? You live in mine rent-free. 

  5. I think we should start a podcast, I’d never run out of things to talk about with you. 

  6. What do you look for in a best friend? And do I make the cut? 

  7. Is it weird to say that you’re my guilty pleasure? 

  8. What’s a song that always makes you think of us, even if it’s just been us for a little while?

  9. How do you like to unwind after a long day, and how can I fit into your relaxation routine?

  10. If we could teleport anywhere right now, where would we go and why? I’m packing my bags just in case.

  11. What’s a hobby you’ve always wanted to pick up? Maybe we can try it together and be terrible at it as a team.

  12. What’s the most romantic date you can imagine? Let’s see how close we can come to making it a reality.

  13. If you could have dinner with any fictional character, who would it be, and would you invite me along?

  14. Do you believe in fate? Sometimes, it feels like everything led me to you.

  15. What’s the silliest reason you’ve ever had a crush on someone? I promise I won’t judge.

  16. If we were stranded on a desert island, what three things would you bring? I’d bring you, of course.

  17. What’s something you’ve never told anyone but feel like you could share with me?

  18. How do you feel about bucket lists? Want to create one together?

  19. What’s your idea of a perfect day from dawn till dusk with me?

  20. When you need cheering up, what’s one thing that always helps? I’d like to be your go-to happiness booster.

  21. What’s a memory that always makes you smile? Let’s make more memories like that.

  22. If you could wake up tomorrow with one new skill or ability, what would it be? Maybe I can help make it a reality.

  23. What’s the most meaningful compliment you’ve ever received? I’d love to add to your collection.

  24. How do you define love, and have you felt it before? I’m curious about your heart’s history.

  25. What’s something you’ve always wanted to say to me but haven’t found the right moment?

  26. If we had a day to spend together with no limitations on what we could do, what would be on our agenda? Let’s dream big.

  27. Do you have a role model? I want to hear about who inspires you. 

  28. Send me a pic of something that makes you think of me. 

  29. If you were an ice cream flavor, what would you be? Let’s see if we’d be a good combination. 

  30. How about a game of ‘Would you rather?’ for our next date night? Dinner and a movie, or a create-your-own cocktail evening with me? 

Funny conversation starters over text to get that LOL

  1. If animals could talk, which one do you think would be the most annoying?

  2. What’s the weirdest thing you’ve ever done just because you were bored?

  3. Imagine if we were both cats. What do you think would be the first thing we’d get curious about?

  4. If you were a superhero, what would your useless superpower be? Mine would be the ability to teleport, but only to places I can already see.

  5. What’s the funniest Wi-Fi name you’ve ever seen?

  6. If you could replace all the grass in the world with something else, what would it be? I’m thinking spaghetti.

  7. What would be the absolute worst name you could give to a child?

  8. If you were a kitchen appliance, which one would you be and why? I’d be a blender, because life’s all about mixing things up.

  9. What’s the most ridiculous fact you know? Let’s see who can out-ridiculous the other.

  10. How would you survive a zombie apocalypse using only items in your current room?

  11. If you had to eat one food for the rest of your life, but it couldn’t be pizza, how would you cope with that tragedy?

  12. What would be the worst “buy one get one free” sale of all time?

  13. If life were a video game, what would some of the cheat codes be?

  14. What’s the most creative use of emojis you’ve ever seen? Let’s communicate the next few messages in emojis and see if we can understand each other.

  15. If you could talk to one species of animal, which one would you choose, and what would be your first question?

  16. Imagine if we started a band right now. What would our band name be, and why is it something ridiculous?

  17. What’s the most bizarre dream you’ve had? Mine involved a duck teaching me algebra.

  18. If you were a ghost, what would be the most hilarious way to haunt someone?

  19. What’s something that everyone looks stupid doing, no matter how cool they try to be?

  20. If you could have an unlimited supply of one thing for the rest of your life, what would it be? And no, you can’t say money because that’s too easy.

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