46 Flirty Conversation Starters

Skip the small talk and up your flirting skills with these conversation openers

We often wish that we could bottle the thrill of the early days of a relationship. The excitement of the start of something new with someone, with all the flirty jokes and suggestive stories — sharing that with the right person, it’s magic. 

While first dates and impressions are fun, flirting shouldn’t fall off the agenda as you progress in your relationship. You may no longer need to keep a bank of cheesy pick-up lines, but butterflies should still be on the menu. 

While starting a conversation at any stage of a relationship is vital, we’ve got the best fun and flirty conversation starters to skip the small talk. 

How to start a flirty conversation 

Flirting can be tricky business. 

Research suggests good flirting should include good non-verbal behavior, intelligence, and a gentle approach. While flirting dealbreakers include a slimy demeanor and not demonstrating exclusive interest. 

Flirting can feel like a juggling act with so many factors in play. Don’t fret — we’ve got the ultimate crash course for starting a flirty conversation right here. 

Be confident 

Clumsy delivery can make flirting feel cheesy and cliche. However, with the right level of confidence, everything suddenly becomes very charming. 

Make sure you don’t confuse confidence with cockiness though, especially in the early stages of dating. 

Gauge the mood 

Read the room! As fun as flirting is, know when to set the mood. Gauge your partner’s body language and ensure it’s the right time for romance. 

Compliments are key 

Something that never gets old: compliments. 

Even though they are often batted away with a blush, making your partner feel appreciated is an obvious (but effective) flirting tactic.


What does flirting often lead to?

You got it — laughter! 

Getting the giggles on a date is a happy consequence of flirting. From dad jokes to playful banter, laughter is a great way to break the ice and lighten the mood. 

Open-ended questions 

Spoiler alert — being engaged and enthusiastic about your partner’s interests… that’s sexy. 

Ask open-ended questions to get the conversation flowing. Flirting topics are anything but restrictive, get talking and see where it leads to! 

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10 flirty conversation starters to break the ice 

Making the first move is an equally fun and frightening prospect. Take the pressure off by having this collection of winning conversation starters at your disposal. 

Break the ice and bring your best flirting game to the table – we’re rooting for you. 

  1. I couldn’t help but notice your smile. Mind if I make it even brighter? 

  2. Are you a Wi-Fi signal? Because I’m feeling a strong connection here. 

  3. I wanted to ask you out for a movie but I know I can’t take my eyes off you. 

  4. I think I knew you in a past life – care to jog my memory? 

  5. I’m here to prove my friend wrong. He said love at first sight wasn’t real, but I’m here to disprove that theory. 

  6. Are you good with technology? I think my phone is broken and only your number will fix it. 

  7. Do I recognize you from somewhere? Or are you just the star of my dreams? 

  8. Hey, this is for you! It’s an icebreaker. 

  9. I need some relationship advice and I was wondering if you could help me. I’m trying to work up the nerve to talk to someone who is out of my league — do you think I have a chance? 

  10. Ever heard of a meet-cute? Maybe this could be ours. 

18 flirty conversation starters for date night 

Candles are lit, and romantic music is on — so what’s on the menu? 

If you’re in the mood to serve up some flirty questions, we’ve got you covered. These are the best flirty conversation starters to bring back the butterflies on your next date night!  

  1. If we were to compare our lives to a romantic movie, which one would you choose? 

  2. Do you believe in love at first sight? 

  3. What’s the most romantic date you’ve ever organized? 

  4. What’s your idea of a perfect date? 

  5. Do you believe in soulmates? 

  6. If you were an emoji, which one would you be and why? 

  7. What initially made you interested in me? 

  8. What’s your love language

  9. What is your opinion on twin flames? 

  10. Guess what color my underwear is. The winner can choose what to watch on our next ‘Netflix & Chill’ night. 

  11. What’s your favorite way to communicate when we’re apart? 

  12. Do I ever star in your dreams? 

  13. Let’s play a game of ‘Would you rather?’... You start. 

  14. When you mentioned me to your friends, what was my ‘this is them!’ photo? 

  15. What would your dating app bio say? 

  16. What rom-com do you think represents our relationship? 

  17. Try out your cheesiest pick-up line on your partner… Giggles guaranteed. 

  18. Have you ever made the first move? 

18 flirty conversation starters for texting 

Crafting the perfect flirty text could be a degree in itself. Do I add emojis? How many ‘x’s should I put at the end? Am I being cringy? 

Cut to the chase with these flirty text ideas guaranteed to make their heart skip a beat. 

  1. I was going to wait until later to text you, but I can’t wait that long to talk to you. 

  2. I have a challenge for you… Try not to smile when texting me. 

  3. How have you gone so long without messaging me? I think I’m pretty cute. 

  4. What’s your favorite way to start the day? Mine is waking up to a text from you. 

  5. I smile every time your name pops up on my screen. So feel free to do that today…

  6. Ready for a deep, dark secret reveal? Talking to you is the highlight of my day. 

  7. When can I see you again? Note: I am free all days that end in y. 

  8. Are you doing anything tonight? Trick question: you’re going out with me. 

  9. I’m not a mind reader, but I feel like you’re thinking about me right now. Even if I was wrong… you are now. 

  10. I had a dream last night that we were hanging out. Want to make my dreams come true? 

  11. I’m going to make a playlist that sounds like you… want to make me one? 

  12. This meme made me think of you. *insert cute meme*

  13. Guess which emoji I put next to your name on my phone. 

  14. Stop sending me mixed signals and start sending me your schedule. 

  15. I don’t have anything exciting to say, but I still wanted to talk to you… So here I am! 

  16. My dog just told me to tell you that he misses you. 

  17. Do you know what would be even better than a text back? A date night. 

  18. Miss me yet? 

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About the writer
Zoë O'Connor
Zoë is the Content Writer at Paired, working on all of our Magazine content.
Covering a wide range of relationship topics, Zoë works alongside our In-House Relationship Expert (as well as a diverse range of outside experts) to create content tailored to our Paired audience.
From fun relationship questions to thought-provoking expert pieces, Zoë works in tandem with our in-app content team to help couples strengthen their relationships!
With a background in content strategy, journalism, and marketing, Zoë has worked across several titles and brands in her writing career. Before she graduated from Trinity College Dublin, where she studied English Literature, she was a freelance columnist with extensive experience writing about lifestyle and relationships.
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